‘My stepmom threatened to miss my wedding after I asked her to walk my dog down the aisle’

A woman took to Reddit to share the complexities of planning her wedding with divorced parents. Her parents split when she was two and both remarried by the time she was seven.
She lost touch with her father at 11 but reconnected when she got engaged at 30. While her sister remains distant from their dad, the Redditor values their improved bond.
Tensions rose when her stepmother wanted a role in the wedding, potentially upsetting her mother.
The bride-to-be revealed: “Mom and stepdad don’t want to coordinate colors with dad and stepmom. Then my mom insisted that my stepdad should be the only one to walk me down the aisle since he raised me and supported me financially when my dad never paid child support.”
After expressing love for both her parents, her mother accused her of being financially motivated. Consequently, she turned to her biological father for help with wedding expenses.
“Dad agrees to buy the tents that I need. We met over the weekend to discuss things and it didn’t go well. Normally have a great time but it was just one thing on top of another.”
Her father initially struggled with the idea of sharing the aisle walk with her stepdad but eventually agreed. However, conflict ensued when her stepfather learned about her biological dad’s involvement.
In an attempt to smooth things over, she asked her stepmother to walk him down the aisle.
“My dog that I’ve had for 11 years is my ring bearer. This dog is my soul dog. I got him in college and he goes everywhere with me. I would happily choose to save him from the cliff over most people.”
She added: “I thought a good way to incorporate my stepmom, since she asked to be included in some way, was to have her walk with my dog since my mom is walking with my niece and there’s no way my sister would let my stepmom walk with her. My stepmom was so insulted that I wanted her to walk with a dog.”
“‘A b—h walking a b—h is what she’s worried my dad’s side will say,” she said.
Her father told her it was disrespectful to ask something like that. He clarified that having his wife walk a dog in the ceremony was not an option.
“I really didn’t intend to offend step mom. I was trying to find her a role since she asked for one. I fear that I unintentionally damaged 6 years of rapport I have rebuilt with them.”
People agreed with her that the stepmom is being uncooperative.
“Your stepmom is completely unreasonable, and I think you’ll regret having her in your wedding, or even at your wedding at all. Your dad sounds like he could be reasoned with, but if he continues being stubborn about something so important to you and/or complains more on behalf of your stepmom, I think he should be sitting down too.”